Today I'm in a suit and heels because I have to actually go to court (usually I'm in business casual with flats), and when I parked on my usual floor in our underground parking garage, and climbed out, I couldn't stand up straight because I had parked in a space right under a huge vent, and I was too tall with my shoes on.
The parking attendant nearly died laughing as I tried to walk over to him scrunched down to hand him my keys.
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Michelle (so far it's just me)- 6'4" female currently residing in the Los Angeles Area. Second year Law Student, and dating a guy who is 6'7". Only gripe about being tall: the difficulty finding shoes, but it's getting better!
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That is hilarious! My sister, who I work for, loves wearing glamorous heels to business meetings too. Her philosophy is that if the men have to look up at you, you will grab their attention and they will never forget you. Seems to have done the trick for her...
I definitely plan to use the heels strategy in the court room, depositions, etc. Great intimidation and attention getting factor :)
You have an interesting blog which I have just come across! I just think "intimidation" is the wrong way to think about it. I am 6'2" (and I always wear 2 to 3 inch heels not because I want to scare anyone but because it makes me feel good about myself) but I don't see myself as any less feminine than short women and even though some men may be "initimidated" by my height, I tend to think of it as the the great equalizer. Men are trained to boss it over us from the day they are born. When they come across women who are taller than them, I think it tempers their natural bossiness and they can look (up) at you as more or less an equal. Anyway you are a beautiful woman and I think you will make an excellent lawyer! If I ever need representation, I know who to call.
The "intimidation" thing actually comes from my Freshman year of high school when the coaches finally convinced me to try basketball, and I was about 6'2 at the time and the tallest other girl in our LEAGUE was like 5'9! So even though I wasn't very good at basketball, people would totally think I was when I walked out because I was so tall :) So I often joke that when I walk into the courtroom (instead of the basketball court) I will have the same effect :) Except actually be good at what I'm doing this time ;)
PS- I agree about the equalizer thing for sure.
Men are more intimidated by women who earn more than they do than those who are taller than they are. My 5'10" ex-husband loved to show off his very young, very beautiful (15 years ago!), very tall wife to his friends. It was only when I started outearning him by a big multiple (I am a successful banker and he is not) that our relationship turned sour. At first I tried to deal with it and never really let him know how much more than him I made (he could could guess as I was a partner in a very successful enterprise and he had remained a second rate banker)but eventually his miserable behaviour made life so unpleasant for my daughter and me that it resulted in our marriage falling apart.
That is so sad Henrietta! I do agree with you however that men are turned off by women who are more successful than they are. My sister, who is gorgeous, has no problem attracting men. In fact she turns heads everywhere she goes. But she exudes so much strength and confidence, which she always had but is now more powerful because she is so successful, that the men are scared off. Not that she minds as she thinks they would not be able to handle her anyway, but I think it would be great if she could find herself a real equal.
That is a good point! I'm not sure why it can be so hard for guys to be with a woman who makes more money than they do! I have several friends who have had that problem. To be fair, I've also known some guys who are absolutely ok with the woman making more and being the "sugar momma" so to speak.
At least initially out of law school (we have one year left) I will likely be making more money than my boyfriend. I'm a little worried about it because he definitely has the need-to-be-the-provider type of mentality, which I think is very honorable for a guy but I won't think any more or less of him or love him any more or less if he makes more or less money than me. I want us both to do what makes us happy, and ultimately if that results in one making more than the other... so be it! But we'll see how it goes.
Everyone her seems to be a successful professional woman! Being a personal assistant/office manager (i.e. I do not make much money), I run with horror from men who make even less. By the way I would be horrified if my boss/sister happended upon this site!
I guess you are very lucky "shortsister?!", you are both shorter than most men and make less money. Nobody to initimidate...
For me, my boyfriend's family is very well off... and my family is not. So in the back of my mind, when it comes to guys who come from wealthy families, I always worry that the family might think I'm just a gold-digger or something. But luckily, since I've done pretty well in law school, and pretty good so far as a Summer Associate, I have the ability to make plenty of my own money so wealthy families of the world don't need to fear! ;)
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